I know this is a lot, but please read everything to fully understand the situation, I really need help with my son.
Im having some problems with my son. He is 15 years old, and a pretty good kid. Doesn’t do drugs or get into a lot of trouble. He wants to be a rapper, just like every other teenage kid. But he is very good and takes it very seriously. We recently moved which made him very upset. He didnt do anything. Just stayed in the house. He stopped going to school and eventually we had to let him drop out. Even the police insisted on that was the only thing we could do at this point. He just didnt like it here. Not just that we moved, he has never seemed to be happy. But when we were at our old house, its where he has been ever since he could remember. All of his family were around there, and even though he didnt always see them or really try to, they were there. And now we moved and its just me, his dad, and his little sister. Lately I was able to tell he was miserable here. Everything was gone that he knew ever since he could remember anything. So I decided to let him go back and stay with his grandparents. Like I said, he isnt a bad kid, just does bad things. I know he is affiliated with a set of Bloods, not really in the gang, but is friends with people who are, so that brings him into problems with Crips. Our neighborhood wasn’t that good. Violence and things like that. We also didnt have a lot of money. I got promoted in my job so we moved. But that didnt make much of a difference. Even though I was getting a little bit more money, I have to spend more money. And his dad, doesnt do anything. He is a good dad, but he often leaves for weeks or months at a time to go see his friends who live in another state, and I know my son doesnt like that. Not so much that he cares about seeing him, which isnt good, but its just that he doesnt like him not contributing anything. I even have to give him money to leave and send him money when he is gone. My son also found out he was cheating on me and when he would leave the state saying different things, he would be with her and spent my money to go see her. She even had 2 kids and they called him dad. He showed me, but I cant leave him. Its hard to explain.
Anyways, it seems like he is so much happier back in our old neighborhood. He is around his friends and things like that, and I think he just feels like he is home again. He wants to be a rapper and producer, just like every teenager does. But he is really very good and takes things very seriously. Recently I found out he has been selling drugs to get money for studio time. Here is the part Im sure nobody is going to belive, but an A&R at 50 Cent’s G-Unit Records heard his demo which had contact information on it, plus various radio stations are playing his songs and give his contact info, but he told 50 Cent (or Curtis Jackson) about him. He got in contact with me, telling me he is interested in signing him. My son is actually on probation, because he got jumped by about 4 people because he was messing with someone’s girlfriend, and he was hurt pretty bad. But in our neighborhood, people in that life dont tell police. That causes more trouble and makes them feel like they are scared or something. So often times they take it upon theirselves to do something about it. So later that night, my son found out who did it. And him and some other kids got back at them and my son put one of them in a coma for 2 weeks. So he is on probation, and his probation officer didnt think it was a good idea to let this happen, so he couldent sign. Which is bs. That would get him out of this lifestyle. 50 Cent, one of the biggest rappers in the world wanted to sign my son. And they didnt let it happen. That is horrible.
So I know he is definently upset about that. Like I said, he takes this very seriously and is actually talented, not like Souljah Boy or any of these other teenage artists who arent really good. And the one chance he had has been taken away from him.
Im afraid this is going to lead to other problems. I try to talk to him but he isnt the type to express feelings, he never has. So what should I do? How should I go about talking to him? I hope I dont seem like a bad mother for not addressing this on my own, but I dont know what to do.
Also, as I said, my husband leaves and I have to send money, so we dont really have a lot of food and the electricity gets cut off and things, but lately my son has been sending me money. He says he has a job, but he is sending about $500 a week and he is only 15 and wont say the kind of job he has, but I think I know. He also bought his little sister diamond earings. They are from an expennsive company so I know they are real. I havent been using the money because I know what its from.
So I just dont know how to talk to him. He really wont talk to me about everything. He isnt an emotional person. So I dont know what to do.
Any advice is greatly appreciated and I hope I dont seem like a bad mother. Thanks to anyone who offers advice.